My husband and I took our children out to dinner this evening. It was such a wonderful experience. There are few things that can fill your heart with joy and love more than watching your children laugh and experience the complete joy that being a part of a family can bring. I don’t know if I was being nostalgic or what, but the experience of merely eating dinner with my family nearly brought me to tears. I loved watching the interchange of loving conversation between my daughters. Tonight, even “touchy subjects” didn’t bring angry words but a compromise of being at peace in the moment with each other.
After dinner, my husband and I drove home in relative silence. Our silence was not from anger but of perfect contentment of being comfortable with each other. The wordless conversation between us was born of the realization that we did not have to entertain each other with meaningless chatter; we knew instinctively that the silent conversation was the utter ease that we felt with each other.
As my husband drove home, I looked at him in utter awe. Sitting beside me was a man who loves me despite all my imperfections. In fact, a little piece of me thought that he might actually like those flaws in my character that make me uniquely me. My heart swelled with gratitude that God sent this man to me. God chose this man for me. He chose him specifically for me. Wow!
As I sat beside my husband and gazed at him, I thought about his multitude of loving attributes. He is kind, considerate, compassionate, loving, caring, giving, and so many other things. The list is endless. He caters to me endlessly and thinks nothing of going that extra mile to make me happy. He hurts when I hurt, he laughs when I laugh, and he loves God.
Watching his face as he drove, I thought, “What did I do that was so good that God gave this wonderful man as a present to me?” What possible good could I have done to have such a gift bestowed upon me. I am certain that what my husband does for me is greater than anything I do for him.
My thoughts turned to his relationship with our children. He is the perfect father. In fact I have told my children that when it is time to pick a mate, they should let the way their father treats me be their guide; if they do so, they will not go wrong.
Does my husband have anything that he does that irritates me? Of course he does; but those same things that irritate me are also the same things that make me smile when I think about them. Those irritating flaws in his character are the same characteristics that makes him endearing to me. Those “irritants” may just be the same things that I will miss if he should happen to go away.
My heart swelled with pride and love as I just gazed at the side of my husband’s face. I am truly blessed just to be a part of his life.