I’ve been told, “One of the things I like about you is that I always know where you are coming from, you don’t sugar coat much.” I like that about me. I like the fact that most people know if they ask me a question or want my opinion, they will get the truth from me as I see it at that moment. While I like that about myself, I also know that others may not. Some people are perfectly content to have superficial relationships with others who only tell them what they want to hear; these people collect other people who only want superficial relationships and the “friendships” they form are based upon what everyone want to hear. Everybody is happy in that kind of relationship but nobody is real. I like reality.
Most of the time, if not directly asked, I keep my opinions to myself but there are times when keeping my mouth shut would be worse than not saying what has swelled up inside of me. How can I keep my mouth shut when someone is spewing hatred with the words “faggot, nigger, kike” or one of the other many anti-people titles? I was standing in the midst of a conversation when the group was talking about “gay” people. I tried very hard to hold my tongue until one of the group said, “What could be worse than to find out your kid is gay?” I couldn’t stop myself. It blurted out. “Well, let me see. I think having a child who is a murderer, a rapist, a thief, a spouse abuser or hell, even a child who is a liar would be worse than having a gay child.” The conversation ended because I made them feel uncomfortable.
If you have to start your sentence in a whispered tone with, “let me see if there are any black people around…” it probably means you should shut up before your ignorance spills onto the floor. If your conversation can not be the same all the time without having to “watch what you say” perhaps you need to check inside yourself to see why your conversations have to be censored.
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me.” As adults, do we still believe this nursery rhyme? Did we ever really believe it? I have been physically hurt before but the pain I remember most are the things that others have said about when I was listening and when they thought I didn’t hear. The damage that endures through time is generally not the physical pain but the emotional pain brought on by words.
Once words are spoken, they can never be erased.